Which should you trust more: someone's actions or their words?
Well, I always say you should always believe someone's actions OVER their words . . . UNLESS what they're telling you will make their life more difficult (such as telling you they're not interested in a relationship or don't want to have kids).
By revealing these intentions, they risk losing their connection with you, which means you should absolutely take those words seriously.
And if you stay with them in spite of that knowledge, then they no longer have to worry about leading you on . . . because they've told you how they feel. So if they're telling you they don't want a relationship but the two of you continue to act like a couple, they get the benefits of a relationship without actual commitment. And if you ever bring up the topic again, they'll simply remind you: "Hey, I told you I wasn't interested in a relationship, so I don't understand why you're confused."
When someone clearly tells us their intentions, it can be hard to relinquish the hope that they'll eventually change their mind. But rather than romanticizing a difficult situation, our time would be better spent investing in someone who's headed in the same direction we are.
The relationship between the husband and wife is very tender, loving & pure relationship. They are in reality the ‘garment’ of one another. They are to their spouses like garments. They protect each other, make each other feel comfortable, hide their faults and blemishes and ultimately beautify them.
The best relationship of husband wife is when you two can act like lovers and best friends.
When you have more playful moments than serious ones.
When you can joke around, have unexpected hugs and random kisses.
When you two give each other that specific stare and just smile.
When you'll stay up all night just to settle your arguments and problems.
When you can completely act yourself and they still love you for who you are.
There is no room for secrets in marriage. Secrets corrode trust. Secrets destroy marriages. Every secret that you keep from your spouse, regardless of how small it is, is taking away from your marriage. Remember nothing stays secret. The same Devil who assures you that you’ll never be caught is the same Devil who will blow the whistle on you. Your spouse shouldn't have to become a detective, investigator or secret service agent. Give your spouse open access to your entire personal life. Don’t take your spouse’s trust for granted. Successful marriages are built on trust. It takes years to build trust; it takes a single secret to destroy it; & it takes sincere apologies & a whole lifetime of proven honest living to restore & repair it.
Respect your spouse & honor your commitment. Live an honorable, open & honest life.
A perfect husband is not the one who disturbs you every night for Love but he who wakes you up for Night prayer.
A perfect husband is not the one who calls you for only romantic talk but he who calls you 5 times for prayer.
A perfect husband is not the one who only makes you dine at a big restaurant but he who fasts with you together.
A perfect husband is not the one who is expert in dealing with other women but he who is very honest, loving and caring in dealing with you.
8 Important factors that can Insha’Allah strengthen a marriage relationship in Islam!
1 - GOOD ATTITUDE :
Say “Alhamdulillah” for whatever Allah gives us. Accept each other completely. As our Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) said, if you dislike one of his/her characteristics, you will be pleased with another.
2 - HELP :
Our Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) stressed the importance of men helping their wives. Allah tells us the importance of women being mates and helpers to their husbands. This is a real “win-win” situation. Husband and wife helping and supporting each other will result in a strong relationship.
3 - TRUST :
They should never expose their secrets to a third person. Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) said in Sahih Muslim that the most wicked among the people in the eye of Allah on the Day of judgment will be those men who divulges their wife’s secrets to others.
4 - RESPECT :
You get respect when you give respect. This is mandatory for all Muslims toward all people, how much more toward the spouse?
5 - JOY :
Our Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) used to entertain His Wife Ayesha (Radi Allah u Ta'ala Anhuma) and She used to play and race with Him.
6 - FORGIVENESS :
Whoever does not forgive – will not be forgiven. This comes from Allah, Himself. We must learn to forgive each others for a good spouse relationship in Islam.
7 - TIME :
Spend time together. Go for walks. Take a bus ride. Visit a friend or someone who is ill (you get big rewards for that). Fast together on Mondays & Thursdays if you can. Make hajj – this is a great way to get a “new start” on life.
8 - WORSHIP :
Our Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) used to lead His Wife in Prayer, even though He lived connected to the mosque. He told us not to make our homes like grave yards. We should offer some of our Sunnah prayers at home.
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May Allah SWT bless all our marriages Ameen.
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